On a certain occasion, during an elegant welcoming reception for the new Director of Marketing of an important London company, some of the wives of the other Directors, who wanted to get acquainted with the new spouse, asked her with some hesitation; Does your spouse make you happy, truly happy?
The husband ,who at the moment was not at her side, but was sufficiently near to hear the question, paid attention to the conversation , sitting up slightly feeling secure, even filling his chest lightly in pride, knowing that his spouse would answer affirmatively, since she had always been there for him during their marriage.
Nevertheless , both to his and their surprise she replied simply; No, no he doesnt make happy.The room became uncomfortably silent as if everyone were listening to the spouses response. The husband was petrified. He couldnt believe what his wife was saying, especially at such an important occasion for him.
To the amazement of her husband and of everyone, she simply placed enigmatically on her head an elegant black scarf and continued. No , he doesnt make me happy.I am HappyThe fact that I am happy or not doesnt depend on him, but on me. I am the only person upon which my happiness depends.
I make the choice to be happy in each situation and in each moment of my life. If my Happiness were to depend on others people, on other things on circumstances on the face of the earth, I would be in serious trouble!!!
Everything that exists in this life changes continually: humans, wealth, my body, climate, pleasures..etc. I could enumerate an infinite listOver my life , I have learned a couple of things: I decide to be happy and the rest is a matter of experiences or circumstances like helping, and understanding, accepting, listening, consoling and with my spouse I have lived and practiced this many times.
Happiness will always be found in forgiveness and in loving yourself and others.Its is not the responsibility of my spouse to make me happy. He also has his experiences or circumstances. I love him and he loves me , often in spite of his circumstances and of mine.
He changes , I change, the environment changes, everything changes. Having forgiveness and true love , and observing these changes that can be, big or little, but always happen, we must face them with love that exists in each one of us.
If the two of us love and forgive each other, the changes will only be experiences or circumstances that enrich us and give us strength. Otherwise we would only be Living together .
FOR SOME DIVORCE is the only solution( .in reality it is the easiest..) To truly love is difficult. It is to forgive unconditionally , to live to take experiences or circumstances as they are, facing them together and being happy with conviction.
There are those who say; I cannot be happy because I am sick, Because I have no money, Because its too cold, Because they have insulted me, Because someone stopped loving me, Because someone didnt appreciate me But what you dont know is that you can be happy even though you are sick, whether its too hot, whether you have money, or not, whether some one insulted you, or someone didnt love you or hasnt valued you.
BEING HAPPY .IS AN ATTITUDE ABOUT LIFE AND
EACH ONE OF US MUST DECIDE !!!
Being happy depends upon you
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