Priya married Hitesh this day. At the end of the wedding party, Priya's mother gave her a newly opened bank saving passbook. With Rs.1000 deposit amount. Mother: 'Priya, take this passbook. Keep it as a record of your marriage life. When there's something happy and memorable happened in your new life, put some money in. Write down what it's about next to the line. The more memorable the event is, the more money you can put in. I've done the first one for you today. Do the others with Hitesh.When you look back after years, you can know how much happiness you've had.' Priya shared this with Hitesh when getting home. They both thought it was a great idea and were anxious to know when the second deposit can be made.
This was what they did after certain time:- 7 Feb: Rs.100, first birthday celebration for Hitesh after marriage- 20 Mar: Rs.200, vacation trip to Bali- 15 Apr: Rs.2000, Priya got pregnant- 1 Jun: Rs.1000, Hitesh got promoted..... and so on...
However, after years, they started fighting and arguing for trivial things. They didn't talk much. They regretted that they had married the most nasty people in the world.... no more love...
One day Priya talked to her Mother: 'Mom, we can't stand it anymore. We agree to divorce. I can't imagine how I decided to marry this guy!!!' Mother: 'Sure, girl, that's no big deal. Just do whatever you want if you really can't stand it. But before that, do one thing first. Remember the saving passbook I gave you on your wedding day? Take out all money and spend it first. You shouldn't keep any record of such a poor marriage.'
Priya thought it was true. So she went to the bank, waiting at the queue and planning to cancel the account. While she was waiting, she took a look at the passbook record. She looked, and looked, and looked. Then the memory of all the previous joy and happiness just came up her mind. Her eyes were then filled with tears. She left and went home.
When she was home, she handed the passbook to Hitesh, asked him to spend the money before getting divorce. The next day, Hitesh gave the passbook back to Priya. She found a new deposit of Rs.5000. And a line next to the record: 'This is the day I notice how much I've loved you thru out all these years. How much happiness you've brought me.' They hugged and cried, putting the passbook back to the safe.
"When you fall, in any way, Don't see the place where you fell, Instead see the place from where you slipped.Life is about correcting mistakes."
Well said. “A pessimist says, Erasers are for people who make mistakes. But an optimist says, Erasers are for people who are willing to correct their mistakes.This story is worth reading. Sometimes we spend time in asking who is responsible or whom to blame, whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. By this way we miss out some warmth in relationships.
Marriage is not just coming together of two individuals. "A marriage is a life long commitment, where two people promise “to have and to hold, to love and to cherish”. The comfort in a marriage comes from caring for one another, and the happiness in marriage comes from knowing that the love you share will grow ever stronger as you go through life together. The blessings of marriage are the fulfillment of your cherished hopes and dreams as your lives unfold, and the realization of the meaning of that beautiful promise “To have and to hold.”
A successful marriage is like a good recipe whose main ingredients are love, patience, commitment, understanding, Tolerance, concern and togetherness. If you can include these aspects in your married life you can find happiness in your marriage. To create a happy marriage is rather like an art. No one can tell how it’s done, because it’s done by the heart. It takes patience to perfect it. Care to make it grow, time to give it value, and love to make it grow. A happy married life calls for constant commitment and concern for each other. It is better to understand a little, than to misunderstand a lot. Learn to understand first, and to be understood second. The roof of peace rests upon the walls of understanding. Understand your partner’s needs. Hold each other in the highest regard. Have a sense of humour as you meet life’s challenges.Honour one another when you are together or apart. Respect each other’s differences.
Enjoy the good times, and endure the storms. Make your dreams come true, together. Most of all, love one another. Don’t expect your partner/ spouse to be same like you (in qualities or mentality). Two people cannot walk by holding the same right hand in the same direction. Love your spouse the way he or she is, and not the way you want him or her to be. Then only you can be happy. Just as the five fingers of a hand are different, so are people around us. Everyone is different in habits, in behavior, and in so many other different ways. Tolerance helps in peaceful co-existence, harmony and understanding in life. No one must feel that what he or she says is the only correct thing and whatever others say is wrong. This is where tolerance comes in. No one has to be blamed. Instead if we Stop blaming others and take responsibility for every area of life and can look at life with kind perspective there would be much fewer problems in the world.
Tolerance does not mean that we accept bad behavior from others. It means that we accept others as they are. If you like to increase your happiness and prolong your life, forget the fault’s of your spouse or any other. Forget all fault finding and give a little thought to the cause which provoked it. Forget the shortcomings of your spouse/friends and only remember the good points which make you fond of them. Sometimes in life, there are enough times when we are disappointed, depressed and annoyed. We don't really have to go looking for them. We have a wonderful world that is full of beauty, light and promise. Why waste time in this world looking for the bad, disappointing or annoying things. I believe that we are happiest when we see and praise the good and try our best to forego the mistakes of our spouse. Nobody's perfect but we can find perfection in them in the way we see them.
It is necessary to understand the difficulties and be a helping hand to each other that brightens the relationship. I thought let me pick four soul stirring Hindi songs about the relation of “life partner”.
1. Tere mere sapane, ab yek rang hain, “GUIDE” (1965).
2. Tu jahan, jahan chalega mera saya saath hoga. MERA SAAYA. (1966). 3. Jab koi baat bigad jaaye jab koi mushkil pad jaaye, JURM 1990.
4. Aaye ho Meri Zindagi Mein ( Raja Hindustani). (1996).
Last but not least let me conclude by the quote of Barnett Brickner, which says that "Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate." "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears. And you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think.
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